Groups have been singing about leaving home since
since groups have been singing…..
In the 50s the Chantels had a hit with…..
‘He’s Gone’, 1957
In the 60s the Beatles had a hit with…..
‘She’s Leaving Home’, 1967
In the 70s everybody was at it…..
Hall and Oates had a hit with…..
‘She’s Gone’, 1973
and The Grateful Dead had a hit with…..
‘He’s Gone’, 1972
Etc etc etc
But whilst everyone is singing about it and indeed, even
writing books and making films about it…..
‘Gone Girl’, novel in 2012 and then a film in 2014
Italian young adults just are not doing it…..
Italian adults are not doing it
Fact: The average Italian male leaves home at 38 !
Fact: The average Italian female leaves home at 29 ! !
This is a cultural oddity…..
…..an idiosyncratic absurdity…..
…..or maybe NOT ! ! !
To the male of the species it is a simple expediency
Mama cooks (better than anyone else on the planet)
Mama takes care of the laundry and the ironing
Mama makes the beds and keeps the house clean
Papa pays all the bills
What’s to think about ? ? ?
To a non-Italian this all looks a little morally suspect
But if you are Italian this is the paradigm
Lie back and enjoy it…..
…..because your kids are going to expect it from you !
If, on your other hand, Guido decides to make an early dash
from the bosom of the family…..
…..then help is at hand assuming he moves close to home
(recent research has shown that the average Italian moves no
more than 3.8 kilometres from the parental home)
…..Mama will straddle the old bicicletta and zip round to
take care of the dusting, sweeping, washing etc…..
…..Well, until Guido gets married and then the wife will take
In the meantime, Guido will normally go home to Mama for
lunch and dinner
So Guido has boldly gone where few have dared to go before
him without a wife to look after him…..
…..and meanwhile, Guido has a more comfortable alternative
to his car for his romantic assignations ! ! ! ! !
For the female of the species it is a little trickier…..
…… if a woman were to leave home to rent / flat share / house
share etc this would represent a serious breach of moral
Women are meant to transition from the parental home to the
home of the man she marries…..
…..there is no legitimate in between
In the rest of the world, university is used as a stepping stone
to independent life
Not in La Dolce Vita…..!
Males and females typically go to universities that are commutable
from home !
So there you have it
Strange but true
And now you know why Italian men always want to see how far the
seats go back before they agree to buy a car